Imagine a child who have been abused by his father over a period of time and does not know where to get help. He does badly for his exams but his family does not earn enough to let him have tuition. He is often bullied in school. His mother who is handicapped is also verbally and emotionally abused by his father but puts up with it as she feels guilty for not being able to do much housework, thus having a messy home. She was also taught from young that wives should not go against husband. Even if she wants to seek help, she does not know who to go to. Her husband is also unaware that what he is doing is wrong as that was how he and his siblings were brought up and they were never allowed to complain. He looks up to his father and treats his wife exactly how his father treated his mother as that should be the proper way. This father actually loves his family but has to work hard to support his family and therefore have no time to be with them. Yet, the rare times he spends with them would end up in frustrations due to inability to communicate, thus more abuses.
In this case, social services usually help by giving financial aids, by reporting the abuse and bullying. That is only part of what we do at ECSS as we believe prevention is better than cure.
Now imagine if the parents have been educated on how to discipline their children, on the consequences of abuses on every individual. Imagine the mother and son know where to seek help. Imagine if the teachers are trained to check for signs of abuse on the child. Imagine if the family has regular family outings and learn how to communicate effectively. Imagine there are people who can help with the child’s homework and classmates looking out for him so that he will not get bullied. Imagine a group of people who comes to clean up the house with the family.
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